Let That Guilt Go, Sis: How to Parent with Peace

Real talk + faith-based truths to help you release the shame

Author

Kiera Jacobs
May 08, 2025

Hey Momma,

Do you ever feel a pang of guilt about not spending enough time with your kids? It’s something most moms experience at some point, and as the custodial parent and sole provider, you carry a unique weight. Let’s explore how you can shift that mindset and make the most of the moments you do have—without adding pressure or expense to your already full plate.

Feeling Guilty About Time Spent with Kids

You work tirelessly to keep a roof over your children’s heads, food on the table, and love in their hearts. But with the constant demands of work, home responsibilities, and everyday life, it’s easy to feel like you’re falling short - especially if you’re doing the heavy lifting. That mom guilt can creep in and leave you questioning if you’re doing enough.

Here’s the truth: You’re already doing better than you think. Your kids value love and connection more than a perfectly planned day or expensive outings.

Shift Your Mindset + Maximize Quality Time

Redefine "Enough"

Why It Matters: Society often pushes unrealistic standards of motherhood. Give yourself permission to let go of perfection.

Mindset Shift

Instead of focusing on what you’re not doing, celebrate the things you are—from bedtime stories to packing lunches with love.

Practical Tip

Write down three things you did well each day. These small wins will help shift your focus toward positivity.

Make Small Moments Count

Why It Matters: It’s not about the quantity of time but the quality of your interactions.

Ideas for Connection:

  • Bedtime Rituals: Share a story, talk about the best part of their day, or sing a lullaby.

  • Meal Prep Together: Turn making dinner into a fun bonding experience. Younger kids can mix ingredients, while older ones learn new skills.

  • Five-Minute Check-Ins: Spend a few uninterrupted minutes before or after school to connect.

Pro Tip: Create a simple "connection jar" filled with activity ideas for those precious moments.

Embrace Present Parenting Over “Perfect Parenting”

Why It Matters: Being present is more impactful than being perfect.

Mindset Shift: Your child doesn’t need a supermom; they need YOU. Even small gestures—a smile, a hug, a little handwritten note in their lunchbox or an "I love you"—make a big difference.

Practical Tip: Replace self-criticism with self-compassion. Think about what you’d say to a friend in your situation, and say it to yourself!

Get Creative with Time

Why It Matters: Finding extra time can feel impossible, but creativity can make a big difference.

Commute Chats: Use car rides to talk or listen to an audiobook together.

Household Chores: Involve your kids in cleaning or organizing and turn it into a game.

Outdoor Adventures: Take walks or visit a local park for fresh air and fun.

Pro Tip: Use a family calendar to plan special moments like movie nights or game afternoons.

Lean on Your Support System

Why It Matters: Asking for help isn’t a weakness; it’s a strength.

  • Trade playdates with other moms to create some breathing room.

  • Join a local mom’s group for community and shared resources.

  • Encourage older children to help with younger siblings or simple tasks.

Pro Tip: Check out Facebook groups or community boards for free activities and support networks.

Momma, You Are Enough!!!

Mom guilt is a natural part of parenting, but it doesn’t have to define your journey. By focusing on small, meaningful moments and giving yourself grace, you’ll create a foundation of love and connection that your kids will cherish for a lifetime.

Next Week’s Topic: “Side Hustles That Work — Earn Extra While Managing Mom Life”

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